Girls night out

Tonight I had a girls night out for my friend Jamie's birthday!! And when the girls and I get together we talk about everything under the sun and I mean everything. We have the best time talking and laughing! I just love it when Melisa confronts random strangers or I get Fetus poster. So tonight was another great GNO, and I have to thank my girls for a wonderful night! I really needed to get out of the house for a while. And then I saw this really funny video on my cousin's blog and I had to steal it because this reminds me of what it's like when my girls get together, but the best part is it's guys doing the dishing! Be prepared to laugh hard and possibly pee your pants a bit!

My Gift from God

This is Isaiah at his 3rd birthday and with his Gampa (Great grandpa his buddy)
I'm posting in Yeyyow (yellow) as Isaiah calls it because this post is another post all about my little boy and best buddy, Isaiah! If I don't stress it enough he is my favorite little boy. I mean yes I love all my kids, but Isaiah holds a special place in my heart. Most people would look at all the things that Isaiah has as problems. But I do not. I look at him as a gift from God! I believe that children who are born with birth defects or special needs were hand picked form God! They were so special to God that he knew they could withstand these obstacles in life. He is so special that sometimes I just can't help it but give him the biggest hug and kiss and thank God that I was picked as his mother in his earthly life!! I am currently looking for ideas of things to do with Isaiah over the summer when school is out and he no longer has that structure in his every day activities. And as I'm doing research I came upon this website about how to home school children with ADHD. And I read this part on there that made me think that is exactly how I feel about Isaiah and I had to share it with you.

You will undoubtedly come in contact with others who do not see your child as a "gift". I know that many other moms watch with horror as I calmly extract my child from the top of the refrigerator upon which he has climbed. They grow weary as he shares with me the 3 millionth thought which just flashed into his head. They even comment that they could never handle a child with the energy level of my son while I harbor the belief that they also think I should just make him "straighten up!"

Others have responded that I seem to hold the reigns of discipline too tightly. I do indeed keep "a shorter leash" with this child, for I know that there is a line of excitement where, once crossed, he will act on any impulse immediately, without concern for consequences or dangers. So to these parents of calm, compliant children, I do seem to respond too quickly to what appears to be a very minor infraction. But I know what comes later, if things aren't kept in check now.

So I have learned to smile politely when their well meaning comments are sometimes way off base. I have learned that my child is special. I really believe that my son is destined for something wonderful...something that would be impossible for those calmer, regular-energy level children. I can think of several occupations where boundless energy would be an incredible asset. I delight in the fast pace of his thought. I am even jealous of his tireless enthusiasm for life and wonder what more I could accomplish if I were so blessed. And I am most especially delighted that I am able to help him reign in and shape this gift of boundless energy. Carol Barnier

I mean it's almost like she read my brain!! She just said everything I've ever wanted to say to the parents who give me dirty looks in the grocery store or at the park. You don't know what things are going on with that child so who are you to judge the parents!!!!!!!!! For us we want Isaiah to feel as "normal" as possible if there is such a thing as normal. As we go to our family therapy I feel that we are making progress with him slooooowly but surely. Kids with ADHD thrive on consistency so we try not to change things too often. We work on one thing at a time until he feels comfortable with that and then try something else. I am confident that this will help him learn the things he needs to thrive in school. And it helps me as a parent know how to make the home environment best for him to thrive in.

I love Isaiah with all my heart and I wouldn't change him for anything in the world. He is my buddy and I couldn't ask for a better son!!!

My little boy

Today I had to take Micah to the dentist to get some cavities filled. I took him on Monday and they made him take Versed ( a sedative) and laughing gas but it just made him hyper and the couldn't fill the cavities. So today they out him under for the procedure. When they first out the mask on him and he was a bit restless but hen 30 seconds later he was out. It took about 45 min to fill the cavities and then when I went in to see him he was crying and he was hysterical. But that's to be expected. I brought him home and I had to carry him in from the car. And if you know where I live you know that the parking lot is not near my apartment so lugging a 51 lb kid was really hard for me. He has been laying on the couch for a while but I think he is feeling better because he is up and whats to eat more than just yogurt. When I was little I don't remember it being this nice, when I had cavities filled you sat in the chair and you sat still and you just had to buck up even if it hurt. Now a days they want you sedated or under so you don't feel it. I'm just glad that we3 have insurance to pay for all this!! When I was explaining to Micah last night about the fact that they would give him medicine to make him sleepy Isaiah came to me and said " When are you going to give me medicine to make me sleepy? Why can't I have the sleepy medicine?" I said because you don't have cavities. He doesn't know that he's been under more than his fair share. But he does really well when it comes to needles and medical things. I think he's use to it. I hope Micah is well enough to go to school tomorrow. I know it's hard to stay home even though you are in a little bit of pain. My little boy is not so little anymore he's so big!!

Baby girls is 6mo. already

So at the end of February Sariah turned 6 mo. And so now she is eating solid foods, which I'm not sure why they call them solids because they are so liquefied that you could drink them. But anwho she is eating rice cereal and oatmeal now and some fruits and veggies, and we've yet to find one she doesn't like. Hopefully she will be a good eater like the boys! I took her to the doctor yesterday and these are her stats: weight 14.0 even which is 9% for her age, height 26 in 51% and head is 16.5 in 30%. So she is on the small side but that's o.k. She will just be our littlest one. When Micah was 6mo. he was 21 lbs and he need to go in an upright car seat. The doctor said Sariah could be in an infant seat past her 1st birthday. Sariah is now putting every thing in her mouth and she screams very loud and high pitch. She loves playing with Micah he can make her laugh so hard. As for Isaiah she can only take so much of him he loves her so much that he's a little to rough with her some times, bless his heart! And as for progress with Isaiah and his behavior therapy for his ADHD this week we are working on making it easier for him to clean up his toys without whining and rolling around on the floor. She suggested that we put like toys in bins and only have out about three bins at a time in the room and out the rest up and rotate them every couple of months. And to separate Micah's toy's from Isaiah's. And label Isaiah's bins with pictures so he knows where to put everything. She said kids with ADHD look at a mess of toys and they get overwhelmed and don't know where to begin so it's easier to just not do it. And so we have to consistent in making him clean up his elmo's or his farm animals. We are just working on one thing every two weeks to help him get more focused at home.Micah is now working on counting by fives and tens at school. Math is going really well for him as well as reading. He reads to us every night before bed. And he has a tooth coming in behind his baby teeth so hopefully he will loose the baby tooth soon so they don't have to pull it. I can't believe that my little boy is getting so big! So that's about it for the kids right now, healthy and happy is always good!!

As for Dwayne and I we had Stake Conference last week and we sent the boys to church with my mom so I could sing in the Stake choir and so we could listen this time. 2 hrs is a long time for little kids to sit still especially Isaiah! So it was good we went because most of the talks were about how to make things work even though your in school and you live in the University Village. Funny how most of our Stake presidency and high council lived in the Village while going to school, so they knew what we were going through. And then we heard this one talk from a guy who shared a story that just shows me that what ever I get thrown in my life there are people who have things that re more challenging and they make some how. He said that when he met his wife she had always wanted to adopt children so she started and adoption fund. So after they got married they decided that they would adopt their first child. And so they had enough money to do that from her fund. Then when the little girl was about 1 1/2 they decided to try for one of their own and they got pregnant. The had another little girl. They had always been saving money really well and they said if they ever had the opportunity to adopt siblings they would. So when there second baby was just four months they received a call from the adoption agency telling them that the birth mom for their first daughter was about to deliver a boy and wanted them to adopt him. They looked in their savings account and saw that the had just enough money to cover the legal fees for the adoption. So a week later they brought home a baby boy. So now they have a 2 yr old girl a 7 mo old baby girl and a 3 mo old baby boy. But some how they make it work. And they couldn't be happier about the way their family turned out. I guess the lord was on their side. Because they did all they could and then they relied on the lord he blessed them with the funds to adopt two beautiful children. It really makes me realize that I need to do all I can and the lord will bless me. Even when I think I can't handle it, which is often with my kids!!! Life works different for everyone. I know some of you out there are wondering how come I don't have kids, why can't I get pregnant, why does my kid have problems??? But I feel like you have to trust in the lord and it may not come the way you want or when you want, but the lord knows what's best for you. And if you don't believe in God then what ever it is you believe or don't believe in know that when you do all you can things will work out!!

I'm not sure if it's good news or bad

So I took Isaiah to this place called the Children's Center a couple of weeks ago. They have Psychologist and therapists to help children and they have a therapeutic preschool. So they asked me to fill out a bunch of different questionnaires. And they wanted Dwayne and his teacher to fill some out as well. I thought this is so tedious and I couldn't figure out why I was answering the same questions over and over again. But this last Thursday I went in to meet with the psychologist and talk about the results of the questionnaires and get her input on how to best help Isaiah. He has a hard time sitting still for any amount of time, and he just goes from one thing to the next so fast. He also has a hard time with not getting his way, he would wine all day until you give in. And yes lots of kids have these same behaviors but not to this extreme. And we were getting worn out trying to find ways to deal with Isaiah's behavior. And so after talking with the psychologist she has made the decision that he does have ADHD (attention deficit hyperactive disorder). This should come as no shock to anyone who has spent more than 30 seconds with him! People who watch him for an hour or two say the are worn out just cleaning up one mess after the other that he has created. So now our plan is to attend family therapy with him to work on ways to help expand his attention and help him focus better. And to also help him with the whining. The psychologist feels that he can stay in the school he's in and that the help he receives is good for now. And that the therapy will help supplement what help he gets at school.She offered us to talk to a psychiatrist also but I want to do all we can before we just give in to giving him meds. His ADHD is not severe so I'm confident we can do it without meds. I'm not sure if this is a good thing or not. I mean on the one hand we know what is wrong and now we can get the help we need to help Isaiah and on the other hand I don't like putting kids in categories that might make them feel stupid. I want Isaiah to have the same opportunities as other children even though he's a little different. When you have kids you hope that they will all be healthy and happy but when one is different you just want the best for them. So for now we work on a plan to help Isaiah and hope that he will respond to the help. I can definitely say life with Isaiah there is never a dull moment!!!

School days

These are some of the most recent photos of Sariah. She has the cutest smile and she coo's all of the time. She is mostly a good baby. I can't believe that she sill be 6mo old next week.
The other morning I woke up and Micah had been up for a while and wrote us this letter it was so cute! I love you because you (he forgot make) breakfast everyday. He is so sweet!!
And this is Micah's first school project. He was assigned to make a poster with three facts about the President William H Taft. He did all the writing and he was so proud. He is a good little student when he puts his mind to it!!

Things at our house have been a little crazy Isaiah was home last week with a cold and Micah had three early days last week and he had yesterday and today off of school. I'll be so glad when both boys go back to school and I can get back to my routine!

New childresn clothes website

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