Thursday, November 19, 2009

New outlook

If you read my blog yesterday you know that I posted something about one of my friends. And you also know that most of what I said was very judgemental! I think yesterday's post was a result of my emotions getting the best of me. Of course I was upset at the situation but it's between me and her and I really shouldn't have posted about it on the blog! But I do appreciate everyone who responded to the post. It shows me who really cares about me and who has my best interest at heart. There may be things I don't know about my friend that cause her to be the way she is and it's none of my business! All I can do is be the best friend I know how to, and help others where I can. And if I can't help then I just need to be polite about it. I'm not the kind of person who would go out of their way to make someone else feel bad. It's not in my nature. I have always been one to want to share what I have with others regardless. And so I agree I need to set boundaries with people so I don't get taken advantage of. But who am I to judge some one elses actions, they are their actions not mine. What ever happens as a result of those actions is their business, not mine. I've been trying to work on several personal goals this week, how to lose the baby weight, how to be more frugal, and the number one is how to be less judgemental. I know at times we all say negative things about other peoples lives but really is our place to say that, I think NO! We have to put our self in their position and say to ourselves would we want someone talking like that about us. No we want people to say the positive about us! So on that note I want you all to know that I'm great full for the friends and family I have who are always there to help me when I need it and provide me with good advice. And I encourage you all to look for the good in people. It's amazing how that little simple thing can make you feel so much better inside!

4 comments:

crista said...

AWWW... you have such a good heart!! Just remember to not let anyone over step the boundaries.

Loves!

Belki said...

Sounds like you are working through it and gaining perspective. That's awesome!!!!! Yay you!!!!! Setting boundaries is a healthy thing to do when you do it with your heart in the right place and with compassion. You already have a good heart and are compassionate so more than half of the work is done :)

The Gurney Family said...

I am proud of you for being the better person. If you set those boundaries in the long run those people will look up to you and not as one that is easily stepped on. By the way. CUTE BABY. She is a doll!

Heather M said...

You're such a sweet girl. I'm glad I met you even though I didn't get to be your neighbor for as long. You're such a good example of a great friend!